tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974479864897892693.post6594234402043062625..comments2023-09-05T08:48:44.120-04:00Comments on Confessions of a Coal Miner's Granddaughter: Just Wondering...*Coal Miner's Granddaughterhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14320077738770745217noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974479864897892693.post-68796996903169110212008-01-30T05:05:00.000-05:002008-01-30T05:05:00.000-05:00Okay we're the folks she's talking about in German...Okay we're the folks she's talking about in Germany and why wouldn't anyone want to come to your house, Heather??? Y'all are so much fun, you are great hostesses, Ian would say Tyler has the "coolest" Star Wars toys around, you are babyproofed, have the coolest play room ever and y'all are COOL and AWESOME too. We will always love y'all and enjoy that wonderful guest room with the cool soap in the bathroom too. Those West Virginian's just don't know what they're missing out on. Love ya -VVondahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10402687712028966598noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974479864897892693.post-83580500797752697292008-01-29T23:14:00.000-05:002008-01-29T23:14:00.000-05:00Dave2 - Wow, the Mac guru, reading my humble blog....Dave2 - Wow, the Mac guru, reading my humble blog. I am... humbled. Hope you haven't candied yourself out in Germany! - I'm with you on the fair-weathered friends and family, though. I just don't get it and I'm tired of not getting it. So, they know where I live. Let them figure it out!<BR/><BR/>Just a Girl - Yeah, I don't like me either. :-) You're funny.Coal Miner's Granddaughterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14320077738770745217noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974479864897892693.post-65033668127768846372008-01-29T22:59:00.000-05:002008-01-29T22:59:00.000-05:00My parents and Al's parents all live in the same t...My parents and Al's parents all live in the same town, about 30 minutes total from us. THEY NEVER COME TO VISIT. I swear it's always - ya'll come over...never we're coming over. So please don't think it's a long distance thing.<BR/><BR/><BR/>I really just think they don't like you... :)Crickyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17000514680545539988noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974479864897892693.post-36101277914653539792008-01-29T22:35:00.000-05:002008-01-29T22:35:00.000-05:00How disturbingly typical. I am getting so very tir...How disturbingly typical. I am getting so very tired of those few people in my life who exist as a one-way reception for my time and friendship. They want you in their lives... so long as it's convenient for them (or they need something from you).<BR/><BR/>My lone resolution this year was to stop making 100% of the effort with these people and see if they really do want me in their lives badly enough to start making efforts of their own. One month down and my answer has been... not really.<BR/><BR/>Maybe one day they'll find they miss me and decide I'm worth the trouble? One can always hope...Dave2https://www.blogger.com/profile/15376066552003396828noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974479864897892693.post-78120478445009201572008-01-29T17:53:00.000-05:002008-01-29T17:53:00.000-05:00David - I won't shut the door, I just refuse to as...David - I won't shut the door, I just refuse to ask anymore. It's gotten so that I sound like I'm begging.<BR/><BR/>Fab - You. Are. The. Sweetest. Man.<BR/><BR/>Momma - That's my new tactic. No more invites. They know where I live.<BR/><BR/>Avitable - You and Fab... thanks hon.<BR/><BR/>Teri - I love you and thanks for calling and checking up on me! And, yes, you can come over this weekend! ;-)<BR/><BR/>Britt - EXACTLY! That's how it sounds from our end. That since we left, it's our responsibility to go back, not the other way around. Whateva.<BR/><BR/>B - No, you're not bad, we're just of the same mind. After years of making the drive/flight, and doing it once with two of my kids, it nearly killed me with exhaustion. Not up for it again anytime soon.<BR/><BR/>Andrea - Hey, I even e-mail and the only responses I get in return are those ridiculous urban legend forwards or meme BS. It drives me NUTS!<BR/><BR/>Other CMG - Hey! Crazy! Same name! Same background! Same home state! Glad you stopped by!<BR/><BR/>NATUI - Oh, yeah, they've got the finances. It's crazy. I can't figure it out. I actually had one cousin tell me, "Well, I just HATE Georgia." Well, gee, I hate Chicago but that didn't stop me from flying up there to visit her! People...Coal Miner's Granddaughterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14320077738770745217noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974479864897892693.post-80671645214487663242008-01-29T15:44:00.000-05:002008-01-29T15:44:00.000-05:00I guess part of what I would look at is the financ...I guess part of what I would look at is the finances--do they have the means to come down? If so, your anger is totally justified. I kind of felt that way the last time I came to ATL, I had just flown 5 hours, traveling thousands of miles to get there--and STILL people wanted me to drive up to the North side to see them. WTF? Would it kill people to try and compromise a little? I know it is hard not to slam the door and throw a voodoo curse on it, I would feel the exact same as you. I do agree with the whole "leave it open but stop inviting camp". I have a hard time practicing what I preach, but I understand what they are saying.Not Afraid to Use Ithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11622378209801018927noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974479864897892693.post-50506203639950080142008-01-29T14:29:00.000-05:002008-01-29T14:29:00.000-05:00Hey Heather, I am a new reader, I found you from F...Hey Heather, I am a new reader, I found you from Fab's website, and had to start reading your blog because my name is Heather, I am a coal miner's grand-daughter, and my family is all from southern West Viriginia. <BR/>I totally understand your being upset at your WVA relatives, but ours were always the same way-we went to see them they didn't come see us in KY. I can only guess that they don't leave WV because it is "Almost Heaven". <BR/>Take care.HEATHERhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06324130429322268692noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974479864897892693.post-29712174357066809832008-01-29T13:47:00.000-05:002008-01-29T13:47:00.000-05:00I feel your pain. I made it clear that I am not t...I feel your pain. I made it clear that I am not to blame for family and friends not seeing my daughter, because traveling with a little one for more than 2 hours (or sometimes 15 minutes) is like stabbing my eyeballs with a fork. Not.Fun.<BR/><BR/>And I don't feel guilty for that. I send pictures when I can, so at least they get to see the ages-and-stages... :)<BR/><BR/>I'm also really bad about being the friend who doesn't call or visit very often. I just can't help from feeling like I'm imposing on other people! Email is great because then they can get to it when they have a moment. But that's me...Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09654221659666974164noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974479864897892693.post-39873834853549404612008-01-29T12:58:00.000-05:002008-01-29T12:58:00.000-05:00l feel the same way as you, Heather. Why should y...l feel the same way as you, Heather. Why should you have to make all the effort if they're not going to reciprocate? I say, "Screw 'em!" And, on the off chance they do manage to make it to your town, IF you have the time to visit with them, then go for it, but make it on YOUR terms, not theirs! I get really bitchy about things like that, and my Hubs tells me I'm wrong, but when you've gone the extra mile and they can't give an inch, you get tired of trying. And you know what? I learned a long time ago, don't spend your time being upset over it, because they have no clue how they are hurting you and apparantly don't care either. So waste your time thinking about it. Am I bad? :)Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06779327970822500357noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974479864897892693.post-57058674011168678062008-01-29T12:36:00.000-05:002008-01-29T12:36:00.000-05:00Oh my God do I feel you.And we've only been here w...Oh my God do I feel you.<BR/><BR/>And we've only been here what? 6 months?<BR/><BR/>But every time one of my in-laws says "well are you coming back for this? or this? or this?" I want to scream. WHY is it that the family of four with two fucking small children should constantly be footing the bill to come see YOU??<BR/><BR/>I get the vibe that it's like "well, you left, so it's your responsibility to stay in touch."Miss Britthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12934134485175970612noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974479864897892693.post-30607095588828910462008-01-29T10:10:00.000-05:002008-01-29T10:10:00.000-05:00Can I come and visit this weekend? ;-)I agree with...Can I come and visit this weekend? ;-)<BR/><BR/>I agree with the folks above - leave the door open, and let them know they have an open invitation and that the ball's in their court. At least then you know you've done all you can and whatever happens from there is on them.<BR/><BR/>hugs and smoochiesUnknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05348484559454760787noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974479864897892693.post-5227322679746270632008-01-29T09:08:00.000-05:002008-01-29T09:08:00.000-05:00It's definitely their loss, not yours!It's definitely their loss, not yours!Avitablehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08541188721193079705noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974479864897892693.post-20268290318038008222008-01-29T08:27:00.000-05:002008-01-29T08:27:00.000-05:00Aw, sweetie - I'm sorry you're having a bad day. I...Aw, sweetie - I'm sorry you're having a bad day. I know how you feel, truly. <BR/><BR/>Recently we had lots of family in town (ironically, from Atlanta) and instead of staying at our place, they stayed with the other brother. The other brother has a big, nice house; we have a townhouse. <BR/><BR/>But guess what? They had a shitty time. They told us all about it afterward. All I said was, "Well, you knew our door was open." My place isn't fancy, but it suit us. <BR/><BR/>Best thing you can do is just keep the door open, but don't invite. Let them come to you. If they don't, it's their loss. <BR/><BR/>Hugs! Peace - DRiverPoethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01846730934649303857noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974479864897892693.post-33416257352506966882008-01-29T08:02:00.000-05:002008-01-29T08:02:00.000-05:00I don't understand their reluctance to come down. ...I don't understand their reluctance to come down. If Mrs. Fab would go for it I would see to it that we moved up there as close to you guys as possible so we could bask in you and Ty-Man's aura of sexy geek fabulousness.The Ferrymanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12783126440597522073noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974479864897892693.post-15529196764174736272008-01-29T01:16:00.000-05:002008-01-29T01:16:00.000-05:00I feel your pain and frustration. I honestly do, a...I feel your pain and frustration. I honestly do, as a father and as a family man.<BR/><BR/>But don't - PLEASE don't - shut the door.<BR/><BR/>Keep it open, keep the guest bedroom ready and you never know. You just never know. The next step after shutting a door is shutting a consciousness and then shutting an awareness and then shutting a heart.<BR/><BR/>Please leave the door open for them. It's important. It's so important.<BR/><BR/>I ain't preaching. I'm just telling it straight from the heart. <BR/><BR/>I just want you to know that I understand.<BR/><BR/>God bless<BR/><BR/>Daviddavid mcmahonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18009095220051075552noreply@blogger.com