tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974479864897892693.post6598599660730857601..comments2023-09-05T08:48:44.120-04:00Comments on Confessions of a Coal Miner's Granddaughter: Bad Day at Black RockCoal Miner's Granddaughterhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14320077738770745217noreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974479864897892693.post-83699609471398229042008-10-08T15:07:00.000-04:002008-10-08T15:07:00.000-04:00Laura - You're welcome, hon. Miss you guys!Laura - You're welcome, hon. Miss you guys!Coal Miner's Granddaughterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14320077738770745217noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974479864897892693.post-71019322296756309432008-10-07T20:00:00.000-04:002008-10-07T20:00:00.000-04:00Well, in the midst of going nuts myself. I sent ...Well, in the midst of going nuts myself. I sent Madi to bed 1 1/2 hrs early (it worked) and left Olivia to fend for herself in the livingroom, while I escaped to the internet (the only outside life I can get these days). And... I read your blog! And after doing so, I am a little less irritable even though the walls upstairs are covered in crayon 2ft and down, the kitchen is a mess, the laundry has it's own guest bedroom, and the dog ate my sandwich.. Thanks for reminding me how great it is to me a sahm! hugs :)Wes and Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00815690159286252367noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974479864897892693.post-44709595272904155722008-10-03T15:57:00.000-04:002008-10-03T15:57:00.000-04:00Other Heather - Thanks for the words, sweetie!A Fr...Other Heather - Thanks for the words, sweetie!<BR/><BR/>A Free Man - Oh, total sorority girl. I was in Delta Zeta. Woo hoo!<BR/><BR/>RiverPoet - I'm thinking about signing up for a weekly class in <B>something</B> to force me out of this house. I'm with you. I think it will help.<BR/><BR/>Avitable - And I'll bet plastic fruit dipped in chocolate tastes even better!<BR/><BR/>Vonda - I love you so much, darlin'. Thank you.<BR/><BR/>Ashlie - Thanks, hon.<BR/><BR/>Britt - Yes, ma'am.<BR/><BR/>Beth - And we're going to get some time away from them next weekend. We both need it.<BR/><BR/>Employee No. 3699 - Sorry 'bout that. I'll remember a warning next time. :)<BR/><BR/>NATUI - 3??? I hope they have no memory until age 29. :)<BR/><BR/>Jenn - Thanks, hon!<BR/><BR/>Gypsy - Thanks, darlin'!<BR/><BR/>Jay - Thanks for making me feel better, sweetie! All my blog peeps (and large quantities of root beer) keep me sane!<BR/><BR/>Loralee Choate - Don't you be sorry. You're story gave me the perspective I needed. I'm so sorry about your sweet Matthew but I'm not sorry you shared his story and yours. Many, many hugs to you. :)<BR/><BR/>Molly's Mom - Thanks, hon!Coal Miner's Granddaughterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14320077738770745217noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974479864897892693.post-2048181514357918962008-09-30T21:39:00.000-04:002008-09-30T21:39:00.000-04:00Oh! I just talked to my therapist about this very ...Oh! I just talked to my therapist about this very same thing. There are days where I am almost paralyzed with fear that something bad will happen! Or I get mad at M for a trivial thing and then see how the parents of the kids I work with struggle every day just communicating with their kid. Puts it in perspective - that I'm a whiny wench. <BR/><BR/>Put the day behind you. It's over.Molly's Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05309400151779204523noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974479864897892693.post-26614325309588673802008-09-30T13:33:00.000-04:002008-09-30T13:33:00.000-04:00I'll let you in on a secret. I feel like this a LO...I'll let you in on a secret. I feel like this a LOT. Even after losing a child and knowing that you should appreciate every single second.<BR/><BR/>But even being me it is difficult to appreciate a second that is comprised of your children making mudpies outside (decorated with bits and pieces of your newly planted geraniums)and then running through the house naked and covered in mud right after you've shelled out $250 to have your carpets cleaned.<BR/><BR/>You aren't a whiner. You're just human like we all are.<BR/><BR/>HUGS. <BR/><BR/>Thank you for the link. I am so sorry it made you cry. I tend to have that effect on some people. ;)Loralee Choatehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16055102094371755499noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974479864897892693.post-41148631905329045742008-09-30T13:18:00.000-04:002008-09-30T13:18:00.000-04:00Honey, everyone, everyone who cares about their ki...Honey, everyone, <I>everyone</I> who cares about their kids at all has days like this. Often many days like this. Just get your head around this one thought: If you didn't love your kids so much, if you didn't want so badly to do right by them, none of this would have hurt you as it did.<BR/><BR/>And one more thing. This is just my opinion, but I strongly believe that little children need to see that you can be hurt too. Just as long as you pull together and no harm is done, they will survive and they will learn, and they will still love and trust you. But they will also have an embryonic understading of human nature.<BR/><BR/>A very wise woman once told me that there is no such thing as a perfect mother, and what's more, it would be a very bad thing for her children if she were 'perfect' as we imagine perfect to be. Think about it. Kids need to see that we are not impossible to live up to, and they need a little 'healthy neglect'.<BR/><BR/>Hugs to you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974479864897892693.post-66457637988985704532008-09-30T10:13:00.000-04:002008-09-30T10:13:00.000-04:00Talk about perspective. {hugs}Talk about perspective. {hugs}Gypsyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14327359141716141220noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974479864897892693.post-25931916396737756522008-09-29T19:10:00.000-04:002008-09-29T19:10:00.000-04:00Being a Mom is NOT easy, but when the little ones ...Being a Mom is NOT easy, but when the little ones smile, or hug you, or say they love you, or do something totally silly, those are the moments that matter. You said it perfectly!<BR/><BR/>This is a beautifully written post, and you are a GREAT mom!Jennhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04264227264937700027noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974479864897892693.post-73649316033625431482008-09-29T17:16:00.000-04:002008-09-29T17:16:00.000-04:00There's a reason kids can't remember things before...There's a reason kids can't remember things before the age of 3. It gives us a chance to have bad days, realize our mistakes and learn to do better. That way, when they CAN remember, we've got our shit together. At least more together than we did before. :) Hugs galore.Not Afraid to Use Ithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11622378209801018927noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974479864897892693.post-82887773838831448802008-09-29T14:04:00.000-04:002008-09-29T14:04:00.000-04:00"Then? I read this..." Heather, you really need ..."Then? I read this..." Heather, you really need to put a WARNING label on stuff like this. It took me 4 tries to read all of it because I'm at work! <BR/><BR/>A plastic pear, huh? I've had meltdowns over much less when my kids were young. It happens and then we get on with the rest of the day.<BR/><BR/>Hugs~Expat No. 3699https://www.blogger.com/profile/13023652840187420920noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974479864897892693.post-57636076082108015812008-09-29T11:17:00.000-04:002008-09-29T11:17:00.000-04:00I honestly have never, ever believed ANYONE who ha...I honestly have never, ever believed ANYONE who has said that they have never CRAVED time away from their kids. It is normal, it is realistic and it is NECESSARY. You are not alone.Fran Houstonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09866461180233343124noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974479864897892693.post-77145792463362956242008-09-29T10:39:00.000-04:002008-09-29T10:39:00.000-04:00Honey, you are not a bad mother because you get ov...Honey, you are not a bad mother because you get overwhelmed.<BR/><BR/>Getting some perspective is supposed to help bring us back to center. Beating the crap out of yourself with it isn't doing anyone any favors. ;-)Miss Britthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12934134485175970612noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974479864897892693.post-48462543440253337742008-09-29T10:16:00.000-04:002008-09-29T10:16:00.000-04:00Being a Mom can suck sometimes and you have every ...Being a Mom can suck sometimes and you have every right to feel pissy.<BR/><BR/>Perspective seems to be granted just when you think you can't handle your situation any more. There is always a reason to feel blessed and grateful for what you have.<BR/><BR/>It's the way life works. Don't be too hard on yourself.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974479864897892693.post-50821634499280838712008-09-29T08:59:00.000-04:002008-09-29T08:59:00.000-04:00Okay sweet thing...just remember Heather you do ha...Okay sweet thing...just remember Heather you do have the toughest job staying at home with your 3 children, but you are also making such a difference in their lives by being home with them. With my job in the airline industry for 16 years, I worked hard, but it doesn't hold a candle to what I am doing now as a Mother. I am worn out at the end of the day!!! This is 24/7. Heather, your children will always know that their Mama loves them and is there for them. Being a Mama is so hard because you feel like you're being tugged at from every direction. You want to be a good Wife, a good Mom, loving, kind, gracious, forgiving and patient. Then you also want to have the house clean, dinner cooked and ready to serve when Ty-Man comes home, not to mention doing some of the things (like running and blogging) for yourself just so you can feel like you're a functioning adult. But then you realize you just can't do it all. It's okay, Heather.<BR/><BR/>It really is okay...sometimes I just have to sit down and realize doggone it...I just need to sit on the floor and play with my girls. Forget the housework, forget it if dinner is not served piping hot when my man comes through the door...your man and my man will understand because they are just great like that. And ya know the only expectations your children have of you...playing with them and your time. Miss Miss, Bubba and J-Man adore you...Don't be too tough on yourself Heather...I am constantly beating myself up that I can't cook gourmet dinners like I used to, but hey I have an 18 month old and a 3 month old and it's just not gonna happen until they are older. And remember Heather, Mama's have to have meltdowns too sometimes. :)I just had one about 10 minutes ago! And I'm not teasing you! Love ya girl! VondaVondahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10402687712028966598noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974479864897892693.post-81710467451271189552008-09-29T08:51:00.000-04:002008-09-29T08:51:00.000-04:00This comment has been removed by the author.Vondahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10402687712028966598noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974479864897892693.post-3595420678073469072008-09-29T08:30:00.000-04:002008-09-29T08:30:00.000-04:00Plastic fruit tastes almost as good as the real th...Plastic fruit tastes almost as good as the real thing!Avitablehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08541188721193079705noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974479864897892693.post-51100601396129785382008-09-29T08:23:00.001-04:002008-09-29T08:23:00.001-04:00Oh, honey, I feel your pain. I was a SAHM for awhi...Oh, honey, I feel your pain. I was a SAHM for awhile, and I thought I would lose. my. mind. I wasn't the best mom or person I could be when I stayed home, though I don't regret doing it. I just needed a little more social interaction than I got so that I could put things in perspective. <BR/><BR/>A smart, capable women like you really needs additional stimulation outside the home so that you can appreciate what you have when you get home. Maybe start taking a yoga class or something during the week that gets you away from the kids and into something healthy for you. <BR/><BR/>For now? Don't beat yourself up. You had a bad day....Peace - DRiverPoethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01846730934649303857noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974479864897892693.post-88789067641923859672008-09-29T08:23:00.000-04:002008-09-29T08:23:00.000-04:00Oh, honey, I feel your pain. I was a SAHM for awhi...Oh, honey, I feel your pain. I was a SAHM for awhile, and I thought I would lose. my. mind. I wasn't the best mom or person I could be when I stayed home, though I don't regret doing it. I just needed a little more social interaction than I got so that I could put things in perspective. <BR/><BR/>A smart, capable women like you really needs additional stimulation outside the home so that you can appreciate what you have when you get home. Maybe start taking a yoga class or something during the week that gets you away from the kids and into something healthy for you. <BR/><BR/>For now? Don't beat yourself up. You had a bad day....Peace - DRiverPoethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01846730934649303857noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974479864897892693.post-30653308647936509862008-09-29T05:58:00.000-04:002008-09-29T05:58:00.000-04:00Yeah, I don't know what full time parenting is lik...Yeah, I don't know what full time parenting is like, but I no longer envy stay at home parents. <BR/><BR/>It's always hard to keep things in perspective, but often a relief when they come into perspective. However that happens. <BR/><BR/>Can I just say, as an aside, that you don't strike me as a sorority girl. But then people often say the same thing to me when they find out I was a frat boy. So there you go.A Free Manhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01038930031019179647noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974479864897892693.post-30015494529915234852008-09-29T01:55:00.000-04:002008-09-29T01:55:00.000-04:00All mothers have these days. If one tells you the...All mothers have these days. If one tells you they don't, she is lying. <BR/>Being a mom is the HARDEST job in the world, the pay really sucks, the hours are torture and, if you are lucky after 18 years they move away and leave you. <BR/>Please don't beat yourself up. <BR/>(((HUGS)))HEATHERhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06324130429322268692noreply@blogger.com