03 July 2008


Have you ever had the breath stolen right out of your lungs? One minute the exchange of carbon dioxide for oxygen is going along just as normal as can be; everything is working just as naturally as nature intended. Your lungs hand off the oxygen to your blood, which happily delivers it to your major organs and tissues, who in turn hand off the carbon dioxide waste which is promptly dropped off at the lungs for a quick egress out your nostrils. Easy-peasy-puddin'-pie.

Right up until the moment said gasses get knocked out of your personal dual airbag system.

I've been burned by many people in my short 36 years. I've either got the words "Screw with me, please!" tattooed on my forehead in such a way that only the mean f*cktards can see them or I just exude large quantities of the "Please stab me in the back" hormone, thereby attracting said f*cktards by the droves. I've experienced heartbreak from both family members and supposed friends and I like to think I've developed a relatively thick skin about the whole thing.

But then my thick skin failed and the wind got knocked out of me anyway.

It's surprising when it happens. I never expect it but at the same time I've been expecting it all along. When something like this happens, I typically lash out in anger with whatever words make it out of my mouth. Civility or politeness be damned! I am indignant! I have been wronged! You shall suffer 500 lashed of my righteous tongue and take it without comment!

But not this time. This time I am silent because the wind got pushed out of my lungs. At the expense of my children.

Gad. Mean people suck.


Not Afraid to Use It said...

It is hard in that split second to weigh what you want to say versus the consequence of your children hearing. I am so sorry you couldn't tear that person a new one.

Anonymous said...

Not do mean people suck. And there's no limit to their suckage - even when innocent children are involved.

Anonymous said...

Would it be wrong or inappropriate if I told you that the "500 lashes with my righteous tongue" line gave me a righteous boner?

Seriously, sorry there are as many douchebags in the world as there are.

RiverPoet said...

I am so sorry that some mean-spirited person punched you in the stomach - again! You are such a sweet person and you don't deserve to take the venom someone else wants to so wrongly dump on you.

Sending you gentle hugs. Hang in there, my friend - Love, D

Anonymous said...

OK, where are they...let me at 'em!

I hate that feeling afterwards when you redo the conversation in your head a million times...this time being able to say what you want to say.

Sometimes keeping silent makes you the better person.

Expat No. 3699 said...

I have no idea what someone said/did to you. I do know that you're a sweetie. So, chin up, move on, you're better than that...but if it'll really make ya feel better, give 'em a swift kick in the arse!

Cricky said...

It's awful to be hurt by someone at your own expense, but it doesn't compare to the pain of knowing your children bear the brunt.

Avitable said...

Is this something new that happened? I'm sorry.

Miss Britt said...

I have a feeling, based on yesterday's twitter, that this wasn't the original post.

I'm seething for you.

Send me an email so I know what color hair to put on the Voo Doo doll.

HEATHER said...

This really sucks!
I am sorry.
((( HUGS )))

Anonymous said...

I am so sorry that you had to go through this. I consider myself thick-skinned and totally jaded and yet...when things like this happen to me, the world totally seems to stop too.

Coal Miner's Granddaughter said...

NATUI - Oh, honey. How I wish I could. But I think this time, I'll keep quiet.

Mattie - Thanks for stopping by, hon! And it just drives me nuts when mean people do hurt someone at the expense of the innocent.

FunctionallyRetodded - No, not at all, sweetie. Not from you. :)

Momma - Thanks, sweetie. Ironically, I'm recovering pretty well from this blow. Probably because I was expecting it. Still surprising, though.

MommyCosm - I will send you directions! As long as I can smack around your hubby's former employers! :)

Employee #3699 - Thanks, hon!

Cricky - Exactly!

Avitable - Thanks, hon.

Britt - Nope. It's been altered slightly. Love you!

Other Heather - Hugs, back!

Hilly - OMG! OMG! You're here! *Fanning myself and trying not to faint.* Glad to know I'm not the only jaded person who still gets surprised. Thanks for reading!

Turnbaby - Kick away, girlfriend! :)

Anonymous said...

I so know what you mean! When it happens to me (usually because of my mom). But I cannot even fathom how it feels "At the expense of my children."

Karma, baby.

Anonymous said...

I've been away from the U.S. too long. In the old Commonwealth, "wind" (in terms of the human body) usually refers to (often scented) air that comes out of the other end of you. So, I was reading this post waiting for the punchline in your fart joke.

As for your wind, sorry that people suck.

Donna said...

"I never expect it but at the same time I've been expecting it all along"
which I think is much like me who:
Always expects it but is surprised when it happens because I'm always hopeful that I'll be wrong.

Sorry you're going through whatever it is you're going through and hope it blows over soon.

I'm just an e-mail away if needed . . .

Krishanna Magic said...

Geez...I hate it when that happens. Mean people do more than suck. THey waste valuable space and breathe OUR Air. Creeps. Feel better soon.

.:| Melissa.Mizladytaz |:. said...

Aww *hugz* I'm sorry Heather!

Have no clue what happened, but all I can say is "What goes around, comes around", "Karma's a bitch" and "Revenge is sweet. Especially when Karma does all the work for you". ;0)

B said...

When people hurt my kid or use them to try to hurt me, it makes me soooo mad! There is no excuse on this earth to hurt innocent children! Lemme know who they are and I'll go kick some butt for ya! Have a happy 4th.

Coal Miner's Granddaughter said...

Miss Night Owl - Dude, I hope karma kicks the butt of the person of whom I can't speak. Seriously. Thanks, hon!

Molly's Mom - Thanks, sweetie!

Chris Down Unda - HA! Sorry 'bout that.

Donna - Thanks for last night's chat, hon!

Krishanna - You're so right. Thanks, hon!

Melissa - Thanks, sweetie! And, as the Klingons say, "Revenge is a dish best served cold." :)

B - And you know? The person who did this has absolutely no clue. None. And that irritates me most of all. Thanks, hon!

Coal Miner's Granddaughter said...

Gypsy - Yep. That they do, hon.

That Chick Over There - Dude. I'll send this one up to you! :)