06 August 2009

Answers, Part 1

Last week, I wrote a rather cryptic post about endings and beginnings. And I left you all hanging, something for which I heartily apologize. I hate cliff-hanger endings. I especially hate cliff-hanger endings like The Lone Gunmen when the first season ended with a gigantic question mark and there was no second season and I nearly lost my damned mind and even though the final season of The X-Files answered Gunmen questions, I wasn't satisfied. Only choking the executives at Fox would have given me satisfaction.

And it's not as if I would throw that open-ended post at you and then shut down the blog. No, never. But, I can't end this question with one answer. I must, instead, give you two.

You all know I'm a paranormal investigator. And I've been doing it for about 19 months. And I've enjoyed every aspect of it and have become close with my fellow investigators. It has been wonderful... except for the communications between our founders and the rest of us. Now, don't get me wrong, as people I like our founders. They mean well, but I truly feel they communicate on a different level than the rest of us in the group. I've come up with my own theory I would like to share with you all. There are three types of communicators in the world:

Group A (impersonal - e-mail, fax, letter, etc.)
Group B (personal - face-to-face, telephone, etc.)
Group C (don't talk to me - I'm surfing p0rn/playing WoW)

The founders of our paranormal investigative group are group A communicators and the rest of us in the group are B. And I sincerely believe for any organization or business to be successful, then all participants need to be either A/A, B/B, A/C, or B/C. Groups comprised of A/B are doomed to failure. And that's exactly what happened to us.

The worst part of all this is that I hate telling people, people I consider friends, whether I'm wrong or right, that Hey, there have been several communication break-downs. And this isn't working. And you've made me and my group B friends very angry. And it makes me extremely sad to have to tell you this. And I can't work past said break-downs. And I'm quitting effective immediately. Because I truly hate it when friends tell friends We can't work together.

You see, I've spent my life having late-night anxiety panic attacks regarding death, dying, and infinity. But in the last 19 months, those incidents haven't happened and it's all because of what I've seen and experienced on these investigations. It has proven to me that there is something after death, that we do continue on, that death isn't an absolute ending. With this knowledge, I don't need to be up, pacing the carpet.

I don't need to be scared. But quitting my paranormal group means "quitting my Zoloft."

But, as I alluded to in last week's post, endings are actually beginnings. And the beginning is that we ten investigators are starting our own investigative group. We have two investigations on the schedule. We're organized. We have a great start on equipment. We're moving forward. And the best part?

We're communicating.

So, thanks for reading. Thanks for being concerned. And I promise, part two will follow tomorrow.


Molly's Mom said...

How exciting to start your own group!

Someday, we need to have a "chat" about the panic attacks you've experienced...you may be able to help allay some of my fears...

Avitable said...

That's awesome!

That One said...

I'm totally with you on the Lone Gunmen! Damn those Fox executives.

So very glad that you're still able to participate in an activity you love. Can't wait to hear stories!

Gypsy said...

I'm glad you found a solution and I hope it works out for your new group.

Ashlie- Mommycosm said...

Very exciting. I love your paranormal investigation stories. If I lived anywhere near you, I would join you. I'm a Group B communicator as well, so we'd get along just fine :)

Not Afraid to Use It said...

Yes, a mix of A/B is good, and all the better that issue has been recognized. Otherwise, this group you enjoy would become a burden rather than a much needed release. Glad you could be proactive about it.

Joe @ IrrationalDad said...

I lean heavily towards the A group and know EXACTLY what you're talking about. I think it's great that you've recognized the issue am are working towards the solution that suits you. Kudos.

hello haha narf said...

i'm all about communication, but find when a group is involved, the best way is the written word. never will you hear me complain about a mass email sharing news. hell, i don't even mind the christmas letter!

that said, this is about YOU and i am thrilled that you will still have an investigative group. i look forward to more stories. talking to you in ky was a highlight for me!

Lynda said...

Thank goodness for new beginning! I'm happy you found a solution that hopefully works for you!

Lynda said...

Oh, and The Lone Gunman cliffhanger really pissed me off too. They didn't really do a good job putting it in the X-Files. They needed more seasons!

sybil law said...

I'm glad you didn't stop doing what you like, anyway. :)

Coal Miner's Granddaughter said...

Molly's Mom - I will have a talk with you any time, hon. Any time you're ready. Shoot me an e-mail, we'll exchange phone numbers, and we'll talk.

Avitable - It is!

Tuli - The Fox executives totally ripped us a new one on the Lone Gunmen deal.

Gypsy - I hope so, too.

MommyCosm - Oh, and I'd so accept that application!

NATUI - Exactly.

Joe - Thanks, hon!

Hello Haha Narf - You know, the written word is good, as long as you think before you hit send. There was a huge problem with this group in not thinking before hitting send. A lot of misinterpretation. And thanks, hon!

Lynda - The Lone Gunmen totally needed more seasons and thanks for the words, hon!

Sybil Law - Exactly!

Patois42 said...

Rock on!

I was telling my 11-year-old daughter than I "knew" a ghost hunter. That I had a "blogging friend." She had me searching your blog the other day to read all about your hunts. Glad to know you're going to keep on doing something you so obviously love.

Merrily Down the Stream said...

Good luck Girl. Endings and beginnings are the yin and yang of life I guess. This sounds like a much needed end and a very good beginning! xoxox

Coal Miner's Granddaughter said...

Patois - I'm glad she enjoyed all the stories! Although, peeing in the backyard was rather embarrassing.

Merrily - It's all cyclical. Someday this, too, will end. And when it does, I'll be ready for it!