There is a person I'm connected to on Facebook who decided to trash all men the other night with the following status update:
Why do most of the guys in my life have to suck so bad? I'm so glad A* didn't turn out to be a little boy.
Wow. What a great attitude. Let's just throw my four- and two-year-old sons to the wolves before they've even had a chance to date. Why don't we just go ahead and chuck Ty-man and Ian and John and Adam and ClintSteveMikeBrettJordanBob into that mix, great guys who don't deserve to be folded into the "guys suck" pile. That attitude? That one up there? That is such a cop out. Yep. Let's blame it all on the men. None of what happens to us ladies is our fault. Not at all. It's all the fault of our boyfriends/husbands/ex-husbands/lovers. Most definitely.
Now, I will admit that there are men out there who are just mean, nasty, heartless, and evil, that no matter what their mamas did they were going to be mean, nasty, heartless, and evil. But other than that small handful? I call total, complete, and utter bullshit. If a man has never been taught how to properly treat a woman, then he's never going to get it right. And if you, dear female Facebook user, keep dating and marrying and surrounding yourself with said loser men, then some of the blame lies with you. How does the old saying go... fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me? So, dear Facebook friend, instead of whining about the men in your life being rotten and expressing your joy that your daughter isn't male? Why don't you instead say, Wow, I have issues and I keep seeking out the wrong men. I've been married and divorced twice in my short 35 years and I'm obviously doing something wrong. Rather than seek out those male personalities that I consistently look for and who constantly hurt me for one reason or another, why don't I look for someone different who might actually be good for me? And if you come to that conclusion, dear one? Then maybe there will be a chance for you to be happy and for your daughter to not make the same mistakes as you.
And maybe you'll quit lumping my toddler sons, and every other male I love and cherish, into the wrongs committed on you by men you should have never sought out after learning what to avoid the first time.
Now, I'll just step off my soap box and go soak in some Calgon.
*A would be her toddler daughter.